犬子的人緣還算不錯,收到了不少鮮花與禮物,頗有乃父當年之風。
東坡有首《洗兒詩》:
人皆養子望聰明,我被聰明誤一生。
但願孩兒愚且魯,無憂無慮到公卿。
麥克阿瑟將軍有篇《為子祈禱文 (A Pray For Son) 》:
主啊!求你塑造我的兒子,
使他夠堅強到能認識自己的軟弱;
夠勇敢到能面對懼怕;
在誠實的失敗中,毫不氣餒;
在勝利中,仍保持謙遜溫和。
"Build me a son, O Lord,
who will be strong enough to know when he is weak,
and brave enough to face himself when he is afraid;
one who will be proud and unbending in honest defeat,
and humble and gentle in victory.
懇求塑造我的兒子,
不至空有幻想而缺乏行動;
引導他認識你,同時又知道,
認識自己乃是真知識的基石。
Build me a son
whose wishes will not take the place of deeds;
a son who will know Thee…… and that
to know himself is the foundation stone of knowledge.
我祈禱,
願你引導他不求安逸、舒適,
相反的,經過壓力、艱難和挑戰,
學習在風暴中挺身站立,
學會憐恤那些在重壓之下失敗的人。
Lead him, I pray,
not in the path of ease and comfort,
but under the stress and spur of difficulties and challenge.
Here, let him learn to stand up in the storm;
here let him learn compassion for those that fail.
求你塑造我的兒子,
心地清潔,
目標遠大;
使他在指揮別人之前,
先懂得駕馭自己;
永不忘記過去的教訓,
又能伸展入未來的理想。
Build me a son
whose heart will be clear,
whose goal will be high,
a son who will master himself
before he seeks to master other men;
one who will reach into the future,
yet never forget the past.
當他擁有以上的一切,
我還要禱求,賜他足夠的幽默感,
使他能認真嚴肅,
卻不致過分苛求自己。
And after all these things are his,
add, I pray, enough of a sense of humor,
so that he may always be serious,
yet never take himself too seriously.
懇求賜他謙卑,
使他永遠記牢,
真偉大中的平凡,
真智慧中的開明,
真勇力中的溫柔。
Give him humility,
so that he may always remember
the simplicity of true greatness,
the open mind of true wisdom
and the meekness of true strength.
如此,我這作父親的,
才敢低聲說:「我沒有虛度此生。」
Then, I, his father will dare to
whisper, "I have not lived in vain.'"
大醉說:
兒孫自有兒孫福。我不強求兒子以後的路該如何走,只能給他適時的關懷與鼓勵和協助……
永遠祝福他——人生路,充實。
孟子.盡心下:「充實之謂美,充實而有光輝之謂大。」
在此附上我回大嫂的一封EMAIL
很多事應該高調就高,該低就不用提,因為我們活在現實中。
犬子畢業的照片,有PO在BLOG:
有興趣可去看看。
我本有想找您,但怕您尷尬,因為很多場面不是我所能掌控的。
雖然我對慶珍有諸多怨言,但當初是我對不起她。
那時,我女人很多,她也一直守在我身旁,睜一眼閉一眼。總希望我能浪子回頭。其實,如今的我,在complain別人時,都會想想自己。也許很多事是我一手造成的,不是別人的錯。
爸年紀也大,我也不應該跟他計較那麼多。他始終是我爸。
我願意承擔所有的錯,換,我曾經傷害過的人;願,以後他們會更美好……
希望您能看以下影片 就不用贅言……兄不再,責任歸我……
佳節愉快 保重身體
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